My approach in these cases is simple: buy the essentials first: safety + sleep + feeding + daily logistics. The rest can be decided once you get to know your baby and their rhythm. Because yes: your baby “calls the shots” and every family is unique.
Essentials: What you absolutely need to make life easier and/or keep your baby safe
- A safe sleep space (crib, bassinet, or playard)
The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that babies sleep on their backs, on a firm, flat surface, in their own space, without loose blankets, pillows, stuffed animals, or bumpers. You don’t need “the perfect crib,” just a safe option that meets standards, along with a firm mattress and a fitted sheet. - Car seat — and learning how to use it properly
In the U.S., the official recommendation is that babies ride rear-facing from birth and for as long as possible, within the seat’s limits. In California, it’s the law for children under 2 to ride rear-facing, unless they are over 40 inches/40 pounds (depending on the situation).
If you’re nervous about installing it (totally normal), in LA County, you can get help from certified technicians and inspection programs. - A changing station, it doesn’t have to be an expensive one
It can be a changing pad on a dresser or a waterproof mat. The key is that it’s safe and practical: diapers, wipes, bags, extra clothes… everything within reach. - Feeding: the bare minimum for your plan
- If you’re breastfeeding: a support pillow if it helps, pads, cream if you need it.
- If you’re formula feeding or pumping: 2–4 bottles and the basics for washing/sterilizing (many families manage just fine with a brush and good drying).
And remember: the AAP also advises against “sleeping in sitting devices” like rocking chairs/car seats outside of the car, for safe sleep.
- If you’re breastfeeding: a support pillow if it helps, pads, cream if you need it.
Optional Items
- Baby monitor, video/smart oximeter
If your house/apartment is small, you might end up using it very little. It can be helpful, but it’s not essential for taking good care of your baby. - Baby bathtub
Comfortable, yes. Essential, no. Many families make do with a sink or tub with secure support. If you buy one, prioritize stability and ease of cleaning. - Mobile, decoration, “going-home” clothes in excess
I get it: they’re exciting. But at first, the most useful things are the practical ones. The nice nursery can come together little by little. - High-end breast pump
There are situations where it makes sense to have one from the start, but many families choose to get it after understanding their routine and, if possible, with professional guidance.
If you’re unsure between two products, ask yourself: Does this improve safety or save me daily time?
If the answer is “I’m not sure,” it’s probably optional.
And here’s a friendly reminder: you don’t need to have everything ready to be a great mom/dad. You need a safe home, a simple plan, and permission to adjust as you go.
But most importantly, remember that you and your family don’t have to go through this alone. At Bona Nítrate Petit, we have a team of experts who can guide you through each step, from before your baby arrives to their first few weeks. Write to us to learn more about our plans.
